Selfish – No Regard For Others

There have been a lot of selfish and violent acts lately where the culprit(s) have absolutely no regard for others. They seem to have replaced love with hate and peace with chaos. Their minds have twisted their perceptions on life and human beings; their feelings have been expressed through acts of terror. Understanding where this behavior comes from can help us to not only help these lost souls but also prevent more tragedies in the future.

There is a word that comes to mind when I read headlines like:

Manchester Arena Suicide Bombing: 22 Die at Ariana Grande Concert

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London attacks: Murderers came to my city tonight

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And that word is selfish!

Definition of selfish:

Concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

Today I want to focus on the phrase “without regard for others”. This phrase, to me, sums up how precious children which were considered to be bundles of joy at one time, could grow up to be so hateful and selfish. Look around you, we live in a “dog eat dog world”. We live in a time where it’s all about us and what we can obtain and possess.

If you want wealth, buy this course on – how to have it. If you want to lose weight, do this routine to obtain it. If you want happiness, take this pill to have it. If you want recognition then do something wild, crazy and horrific to get it.

We are living in an information world where we load up on the “How To”.

Social media and advertisements do a great job at promoting what we need and how we can obtain it. We want to look good and have the life we dream about. We want to be heard, we want to be seen, and we want to do something of great magnitude. The problem is some have confused greatness with disastrous, which leads to committing unexplainable acts. Somewhere, down the line greatness and disastrous crossed paths and took on the same meaning.

This confusion all leads back to the word selfish — concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

Selfishness causes a suicide bomber to kill twenty-three adults and children and injure 119 after a concert in Manchester England. Selfishness causes assailants to kill seven people and wounded 48 others by ramming a vehicle into a crowd on London Bridge and then stabbing people in nearby Borough Market.

“No regard for others” is a common theme in both of these tragedies leading right back to the word selfish.

Selfishness has been around for a long time. The first record of selfishness is Adam and Eve eating from the tree, they were told not to eat from.

But actually, that was not the first case of selfishness. An angel named Lucifer, known to many as Satan or simply the devil, was the first. Satan was once holy and enjoyed heavenly honors, but through pride and ambition to be as the Almighty, he fell. Satan revealed his selfish nature five times in the exclamation “I will”. This sinful selfish behavior of his would change our world forever. Many people after him would develop selfishness and commit horrible acts to others. Many angels would follow in his footsteps. Many children would grow up saying “mine, mine” with no regards for others.

We live in a world full of selfishness. And unless we do something about it, it will only get worse.

I believe we are all born with a good heart. I believe we are all born with a love for God and others. But, the corruptness and violence around us push us into a state of “what can I get from this world?” Instead of “what can I give to this world?” It’s hard to do something good in a world where so many are doing something bad. It’s hard to be positive when so many people around us are negative. It’s hard to show love when so many people are showing hatefulness.

But I believe that with God all things are possible. I believe that we all have “good” in us and I believe we all have a heart to love. But if we don’t apply it, we will lose the heart for it, and we will wind up like a lot of others in the world – selfish with no regard for others.

The world is a dangerous place. Not because of the people who are evil; but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.”Albert Einstein

It’s hard to continue to love people and do “good” when you see no benefit from it. But you can’t base your choices or actions around your expectations. You are a good person that wants to do “good” or else you wouldn’t still be reading this post. So don’t give up, keep doing what is right, even if you don’t see the benefit yet.


So what is this “good” that I keep bringing up?

It’s spreading love, it’s helping others, it’s showing kindness, it’s putting others first, it’s not discriminating, it’s not judging, it’s not hating, it’s not being selfish!

I’ve always said that if we could put as much determination, dedication and time into serving others as we put into serving ourselves we could have a fulfilled and blessed life.

Have you ever done something foolish to get attention? Have you ever done something mischievous to get ahead? Have you ever done something illegal to get what you want? Have you ever done something selfishly for pleasure? Have you ever done something for yourself with no regard for others?

I love the verse in Matthew 28 that says: For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.

Jesus recognized that it wasn’t about Him when He willingly gave His life for you and me. Before Jesus went to the cross he went to the beautiful garden of Gethsemane and fell on his face and prayed, saying, “Father, if it is Your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not My will, but Yours, be done.”

Be honest with yourself, are you a selfish person? Can you relate in any way to the definitions of selfish? If so, then become aware of it, assess it and make a decision today, to stop being that way.

Being selfish is selfish.

It means you are all about yourself and what you can get. It means you have no regard for others, and it’s a terrible way to live. Not to mention it is unhealthy, addictive and contagious. It doesn’t just hurt you, it can and will hurt those around you. Be a better example for your children and your community. Be a better example for this world. This world needs you to be unselfish.

Imagine with me what this world would be like if more people were unselfish…

Imagine the love and respect and gratitude that people you come in contact would have. Imagine how peace and joy would flow from place to place. Imagine how violence and fears would diminish. Imagine what that would look like in your life…

Get rid of your selfish ways and make an impact in someone’s life. Don’t get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time you will reap a harvest of blessing if you don’t give up.

Make a decision today to start and/or continue to do good, and please send me a comment and let me know how it’s going.

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Mr. Swicegood is a changed life, who has used tragedies and hardships in his life to encourage others. Read his uplifting story "From The Bootom To The Top". Feel free to send Benjamin a message.
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